It's time to get to the heart of what it means to BE a confident, masculine man and learn what it takes to stay that way, no matter what happens!
There is an emphasis on the "BE" part, as you can get any number of courses, books or programs that will explain what confidence can look like - but they never address how to actually create and cultivate it.
Confidence Is An Inside-out Game.
The first thing you hear when talking about confidence is how it "looks" on the outside.
This makes sense as it is often in this way we first experience someone else's confidence.
Most of us notice things like:
Body Language
Presentation
Assuredness
Decisiveness
Ability to adapt
However, as they say, the clothes don't make the man!
Confidence is not somewhere you go to in your life.
It is somewhere you must come FROM.
But you already know all this, don't you?
You've tried all the hacks to being confident by acting it.
Fake it till you make it hasn't led to any real change in your life and if anything only added to your stress because now you have to maintain the "act" with all the people that you meet.
How tiring!
I remember pretending all too well.
Even as you pretend, act the way you want to be; deep down you are still the same.
Nothing has changed.
You're the same terrified guy who is always worried that something unexpected will happen for which you are unprepared.
You might feel like a guy going through life surrounded by a bunch of people just waiting for you to slip up and break character.
This Is Every Man's Problem - Focusing On The Outside Never Changes Us On The Inside
Confidence is NOT an end goal. It's not an act.
Don't think about it as something to achieve or a place to get to.
There is no end goal when dealing with confidence.
It's not a destination.
You will never get to the point where you say to yourself:
"Well now I'm confident. Great! Now I can enjoy myself."
Start seeing it as the by-product of taking small, courageous actions CONSISTENTLY.
I recently saw a clear example of how easily our natural confidence can be lost.
Sitting at the pool, I saw a toddler that had just learnt to walk. He was marching back and forth on the tiles. With a gleeful, mischievous look in his eyes, this kid was on a mission!
But then, he stood in a puddle and slipped and tumbled butt first onto the ground.
The glee was now replaced with shock and horror. Tears welled up as he let out a yelp.
He had just learnt that something could go wrong and, as a result, he became super cautious walking everywhere!
A few moments earlier he was a wandering champion, able to go anywhere he pleased, but then he learnt that there was danger inherent in walking, so he became incredibly cautious.
Sound familiar?
This made me think.
Nothing outside of him changed.
It was the same floor and he was the same kid and yet now he was no longer confident. He was terrified that he might fall again.
The same is true for you, brother.
Your fears, insecurities and anxieties are all learned throughout your life. You weren't born with them.
Some are useful and help you remain safe. But others are making you play small even now as a grown man.
Until You Realised The Relationship Might End, You Lived As If It Wouldn't
Marriage means different things to different people, but for your average Joe, it is treated as a guarantee.
A guarantee that no matter what happens, no matter how lazy, safe and or small you play the game of life; at least THAT is sorted.
Then the rug is pulled from underneath you and you fall onto the hard floor of reality - just like a toddler!
It was NEVER a guarantee.
It was NEVER done and finished.
You only thought it was.
How Would You Be If You KNEW You Would Be Okay?
This is what we are offering you.
An opportunity to reconnect to the parts of you that KNOW you are okay and will always be okay.
It doesn't matter how many times you fall flat on the tiles of reality.
You will know that you will be okay.
You life won't end if your wife leaves you.
You know that you will be okay.
It's happened before and will happen again and each time you pick yourself up and YOU ARE OKAY.
So why are you behaving as if you won't be?
What beliefs have you learnt over the years that tell you that you won't be?
Surrounding yourself with other men that KNOW what it's like to fall AND get back up again is the first step to moving beyond being afraid of making a mistake.
When you realise that you are and always will be okay, you start playing the game of life BOLDLY, CREATIVELY and with a PASSION that is infectious, attractive and energizing!
Stop letting the fears that you picked up as a child dictate how you show up as a man!
To book a session that could make ALL the difference between maintaining YOUR frame or being influenced by hers!
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